Ever get a spark and it starts a fire in your head? I’ve got a concept now that is doing just that. I can’t tackle it all in one post so it’ll be a series of posts, all of which will have a title starting with “Digging Deep”. Kind of like my automatic writing being, “Showing My Work”. So with that I’ll start digging….

The way we change, in our own minds, the way we feel we are mistreated by others is to change how we treat others ourselves.

To receive credit from others, give credit to others. To be treated with respect, be respectful. To be trusted, trust another. To be loved, give love. As Ghandi said, “Be the change you wish to see.”

And as important as the doing is, the doing so with sincerity is greater. If I speak with insincerity, saying words purely to be perceived a certain way, I always find insincerity in response. No true communication can occur in this exchange and no understanding will be reached. The situation remains unsettled . . . energetically.

I’m sure this is not a new concept but I am seeing it more clearly in this metaphor of exchange. All energy translates to a vibration, each with a unique frequency. I can understand the energetic potential of emotions. Emotions are neither positive nor negative themselves. But instead they hold the potential, the capacity to be positive or negative. Their energetic charge (be it positive or negative) becomes clear only once they are expressed.

I believe with every encounter, direct or indirect, there is an exchange of energy. Some are equal and off-setting, some are filling and some are exhausting. Those falling into the latter, are usually exchanges that are emotionally charged. I realize I have control over how I am energetically connected to everything in this world. And it comes in mastering the art of responding instead of reacting.

Being mindful of my attitudes and impeccable, as Don Miguel Ruiz says, with my words, releases my attachment to any negative or depleting energy that could be associated with an interaction. If I can maintain the practice of addressing the positive in a situation consistently, I know I may not change my situation or the feelings of another. But I will change how I am energetically invested in it. I can choose to make an energetic deposit instead of withdrawing a credit. I can then leave the situation energetically debt-free.